How to Say Thank You
I have way too many clothes. Don't tell anyone I admitted to that, but my closet is a little ridiculous. That being said I don't plan on stopping accumulating clothes any time soon. I love to find those pieces that make me feel girly, or fierce, or powerful, or confident, or comfy, or [you insert the adjective]. When I put together an especially great outfit, I want people to notice! I want people to say, "Damn, she looks good, I bet she feels good, too!" Which is why when I get to the moment when someone finally does say, "Oh wow you look really nice today!" or, "Your outfit is great!" What do I say? "THANK YOU!" And then I usually follow that with a super ghetto conversation about how I got the skirt I'm wearing on sale for like $3 at Ross and the shirt is actually a hand-me-down from my awesome friend/realtor who gives me clothes.
Now, some of you reading might think wow, that's a little conceited or dang I don't know if I could just say "thank you" it's so awkward. Sure you can! Ready? Here's how you do it:
1. Take a breath
3. Say thank you
4. Remember that you are a badass
5. Feel awesome
Y'all there are so many times in our lives when we will fail, look like crap, feel like crap, say something stupid, and in general feel like the world is falling down all over us. For God's sake, if you manage to pull off something as fantastic as a pencil skirt and top and you're looking hawt, you own that shit! If you do a presentation and someone tells you that it was really great, you say "Wow thanks, I worked really hard so I appreciate that!"
Guess what fellow hustlers: we are not taking life laying down. We are out there making goals, crossing off to-do lists, breaking glass-ceilings, kicking ass, and taking names. Maybe Beyonce woke up like that, but girl you know I didn't and neither did you. We work hard for what we've got, so if someone notices and throws a compliment your way, honor that. Honor the work you have done to get there, whether its the bomb red lipstick you are rocking or the on-point proposal you just wrote. Take that compliment and put in the " Go Me!" file in your head. Honor it, honor the person who is giving it, and say "Thank you."
What's the next step? When someone tells you how great you are, bask in that badassery for a hot-second after saying thank you and realize how great it felt to hear that. Now do that for someone else. I don't know about you but I am real tired of hearing moms shame other mommoms, hearing women body-shame other women, hearing Cardi-B and Nikki Minaj go at it.....if we are going to stand for anything, we need to stand for each other. You see another sister rocking it, tell her so. And if she tries to say, "oh no...I just...It's no big deal..." you stop her in her tracks and tell her to honor the queen that she is.
Now let me be real clear: MY LIFE IS FOR ME.
I dress the way I dress because it feels good. I do what I do because it is my passion. I act the way I act because I don't know any other way. I don't do these things with other people's reactions in mind. But if someone else is going to appreciate me, I am certainly not going to stop them, and you shouldn't either.